I am reborn and just want to concentrate on my studies - Chapter 147 The so-called emotional intelligence [6K]

The final exam is next week, and Yi Yang is lying in bed thinking about something.

There are also bottlenecks in learning. After doing several sets of test papers, I still found that I encountered an invisible wall.

Separately speaking, the scores outside of Chinese and Mathematics have been very stable. Among them, the scores in mathematics and English are the best. Mathematics can score above 130. English is a little less, but can still maintain 120. For Chinese, it depends more on luck. Mainly on the reading comprehension questions, I still can’t grasp the direction of answering the questions. Occasionally my understanding is shallow, and sometimes my understanding is deep, but it seems that it is not very good. This requires more questions, more analysis, and mastering the rules… Do this slowly.

In terms of minor subjects, physics and history are relatively important and can be regarded as main subjects. Geography and biology are relatively minor subjects and are more about learning some common sense. The difference can also be seen in the scores. The full score for physics and history is 100 points, while the total score for biology and geography is only 100 points.

Total score is 750.

Of course, there are some differences in the teaching and examination procedures for junior high schools in China. Even within Jiangnan Province, it is difficult to unify them among prefecture-level cities. This score refers to the municipal examination score delineated by Heyang City. Before the high school entrance examination, city-wide unified examinations were rarely conducted, at least for now.

Now while I am studying, I am also thinking about my future direction… mainly in the arts and sciences.

The earlier you decide whether you will study literature or science in high school, the more benefits it will have for your future studies. Of course, we should try to be as balanced as possible in junior high school. Finding a preference for reading literature and science while ensuring that we are not partial to subjects is something that should be considered at the moment.

This matter can be thought about from two aspects. On the one hand, whether you are good at it or not, and on the other hand, the future prospects.

Whether you are good at it or not is easy to think about, just look at your results. At present, it seems that according to the division method of high school, there is no need to consider other than language and mathematics. After all, arts and sciences are all considered. At this stage, the content of geography and biology is really simple, and the scores have little reference value, so the main focus is history and physics.

Yi Yang feels that history and physics are the standards for the division of arts and sciences.

Physics can be said to be the end of all natural sciences. Whether it’s chemistry or biology, at the end of the day it’s physics.

And history is inextricably linked to all social sciences. Especially in the process of studying history, mastering historical materialism is also of great help to understanding other social sciences. From a certain perspective, it is not an exaggeration to say that history is the foundation of other social sciences.

And these two subjects…well, judging from the scores alone, physics is better, but this is related to the question pattern of liberal arts and science. 98 in the physics test and 89 in the history test does not mean that physics is definitely better than history. More talented. After all, the only answer in science is objective existence, independent of human will. But history is not good. There are always subjective questions that let you talk about your opinions. When you answer the questions, you can be more subjective. If the marking teacher is more subjective, the score will also be subjective.

From the perspective of hobbies, the same cannot be seen. Of course I am interested in physics. After all, I have been dealing with cars for so long… But that is just elementary physics. Every time I hear Luo Bing talk about some physics competitions, I seem to have only seen them on TV. The physical formula, that is the sea of ​​stars he should pursue.

But are you not interested in history? Neither. Especially after ordering historical journals and patiently chewing them up, the splendid and complicated history is equally fascinating. Regarding history, we can think of it as a story. Whether it is a person, event or object who can leave a mark in history, there is a story about it. Each one of them may be soul-stirring, sad or sad. The history of hatred, if seriously understood, will really bring people a feeling of family and country.

Sometimes Yi Yang even thinks that liberal arts and science should not be divided into subjects, or that history should also be studied as a compulsory course. Lu Xun said that young people should stay angry. If they want to be angry, they should study history.

So so far, I only look at whether I am good at it, and I still can’t tell which direction I should choose in the future.

However, from the perspective of future choices, Yi Yang is still more inclined to study science. Because there is a wider range of choices from science to university, and you can be exposed to many cutting-edge fields of science and technology… In a sense, people who study science are the group of people who promote the progress of this society.

Perhaps the best solution is to study science, maintain the habit of reading history, and learn a little philosophy…

Feeling a little relieved, he felt that his cognitive ability had improved a lot. He would not have thought about these things before. This is how people are. In learning bit by bit, they broaden their horizons and improve their ability to think. They are subtle and subtle. At a certain moment, they feel the change and smile.

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In physical education class, Yi Xiaoqing was sitting alone in the stands. Not far away, there were several girls chatting together. She seemed out of place.

Looking at the playground, she was thinking about something.

After the midterm exam, Yi Xiaoqing never took the initiative to go to Yi Yang’s house again. Naturally, that experience had a big impact on her. Her cousin, whom she originally looked down upon… suddenly became a top student, ranking among the top 50 in their second year of junior high school, and even received a scholarship from the school. Scholarship… It’s not that I haven’t had such a strong sense of gap before, but this gap was brought about by Yi Yang, and my mood is more complicated.

At this time, Yi Yang’s attitude towards Yi Yang was more of one of shame, not because of the feeling of shame, but because all the things he showed off had become a joke to him. This was a huge blow to his self-esteem. .

It is difficult to say clearly what the attitude towards this cousin is at this time. Her mother had always read stories about Yiyang and his family, saying that this was not good and that there was not so good, and over time, she also formed a fixed impression. A little while ago, during the last semester, Yi Yang had a few fights, solidifying his reputation as a gangster… In short, his mother didn’t like him very much.

But, are what my mother said true? Unwavering before, but that was before.

She also went to watch the knowledge contest and the New Year’s Day party that day… It was quite shocking. She never thought that Yi Yang could stand in such a dazzling place. It’s cool, but looking at Yi Yang on the stage, I don’t feel very happy.

Yi Xiaoqing has also entered puberty.

Yi Yang’s changes caused a huge sense of tearing in her. And she began to attribute all this to the education of her mother Wang Hua.

She is getting more and more annoyed with her mother now. She can’t see her mother’s character in other aspects yet, but from her own perspective, she likes to blame herself, and she always lectures on trivial matters. I was really helpless and angry… A few days ago, I talked back to her for the first time in my life, and I haven’t spoken to her yet.

When she talked back, she didn’t even think that it could be so satisfying. For a long time, I didn’t dare to talk to my parents like this. I suppressed it for a long time, and it was a sudden release. When she talked back, her mother was stunned for a long time, seemingly in disbelief.

Many things my mother said were wrong, and it was really tiring to blame myself every time. I began to feel that everything she said was wrong, and she wanted to get angry at anything she said… Therefore, Yi Xiaoqing sometimes felt that some of the things she said about Yi Yang were wrong.

But it’s obvious that she didn’t like Yi Yang not long ago…or that she doesn’t like it now, but she doesn’t like Wang Hua’s preaching even more, so she probably has a kind of rebellion of “I will accept whatever my mother objects to”. It’s just that this goes against her nature and will cause a tearing sensation, which makes her painful.

And troubles come one after another. She didn’t know when she started to realize that no one in the class seemed to like her very much, and even the people in the dormitory were not willing to go with her… Did she dislike her for being poor? No, there are obviously people who are poorer than herself, such as Zhao Yue’e. Why is she always surrounded by people?

After hesitating for a while, she got up and went to join some girls who were gathering not far away.

They were chatting about gossip, what happened to a certain boy, what happened to a certain girl, what happened to a certain star… When she passed by, everyone’s expressions changed slightly, and then they exchanged looks… This detail, she Not even discovered.

“I also feel that Chen Yiru is so ugly but so confident. I feel so angry when I see him on “Camp”.”

“Yes, but I don’t think Wang Dongcheng is very good-looking. In comparison, Wu Chun is the most handsome.”

Yi Xiaoqing listened for a while and wanted to interrupt. After thinking about it, he used a sentence that he thought was more humorous: “Ha… then you have quite strong taste~”

However, after she said this, the faces of several girls changed slightly. The girl who just spoke snorted coldly and said, “It’s not as strong as your taste. Who doesn’t know how strong your taste is?”

Yi Xiaoqing was stunned, and suddenly realized the offensive meaning in the other person’s words. He frowned and said, “What do you mean?”

“What do you mean?”

“I was just kidding, are you so stingy?”

The girl opposite laughed out loud and said, “I just can’t take a joke, I just don’t want to listen to you, what’s wrong?”

“you!”

“let’s go.”

Several girls glanced at Yi Xiaoqing silently, then they all stood up and walked away together.

She stared at the people in a daze, gritted her teeth, and suddenly burst into tears. After everyone had gone away, she stood up silently, wiped away her tears, and glanced at her classmates who were resting in twos and threes in the playground. She was filled with resentment and began to imagine some unrealistic things in her mind… Many, many years later, she became famous. Infinity, those guys who took the lead in hating themselves, all regretted it, and begged for forgiveness one by one… After fantasizing like this for a while, they seemed to feel better, but their hearts were still sour.

I started walking on the playground silently, with my head lowered, and kept thinking about those messy things in my mind… I walked to the door of the sports equipment room, which was far away from the crowd and quiet. There was a skipping rope on the ground. She picked it up, wrapped it around it, and kept tying a tight knot… subconsciously.

Suddenly there was a rather stern voice in my ear: “What are you doing!”

Yi Xiaoqing was startled and turned around to see a physical education teacher, the only female physical education teacher in the school, frowning and staring at him.

The female teacher took the skipping rope in her hand, looked at the skipping rope with dozens of knots, and said angrily: “You students…” Before the criticism could be uttered, she was stunned…

Because Yi Xiaoqing suddenly started crying.

The female physical education teacher’s surname is Wu, which is the same as Wu Zetian. She is tall and nearly 1.8 meters tall. Her students affectionately call her Queen. She is a straightforward woman, but she got angry when she saw this scene, “Did I tell you? Why are you crying! Are you so delicate?”

But I’m not used to it.

Yi Xiaoqing just cried. The chaotic emotions in her heart suddenly became unbearable at this moment and poured out crazily.

Yi Xiaoqing’s cries attracted several people inside who were helping to organize and clean the equipment in the equipment room.

Yi Yang, Zhang Bushou and Zhao Qiang.

They all heard the crying outside.

The final physical exams have been taking place these past few days, so the equipment room has been very messy. Dahei Niu wanted to find a few businessmen to come over and help with the cleaning. Because Da Hei Niu had asked Da Hei Niu to help him several times before, when Da Hei Niu mentioned this matter, Yi Yang basically didn’t think about it, so he pulled Zhang Bushou and Zhao Qiang to ask for help. I came here on vacation to work illegally… We all have relationships with each other. If you don’t want to help others, no one will help you when you need help.

Yi Yang said: “I’ll go out and see what’s going on.”

Zhao Qiang and Zhang Bushou nodded.

As soon as Yi Yang walked to the door, he was stunned when he saw Yi Xiaoqing.

Teacher Wu also saw Yi Yang and felt relieved for a while. Naturally, she knew Yi Yang. Her specialty was basketball. The last time she played basketball in the county, she was kicked off the referee. Later, she also watched the school finals. Yi Yang left a deep impression on her. impression. This time, Yi Yang volunteered to help organize the equipment room and chatted for a few words. Yi Yang’s comfortable conversation made her even more fond of him.

Yi Yang asked: “Teacher Wu, what happened?”

Teacher Wu changed his expression towards Yi Yang, showed him the messy skipping rope, and explained seriously: “It’s not a big problem. This girl did it, and I didn’t say anything, so she cried… …” Then he turned around and glared at Yi Xiaoqing: “Did I scold you or hit you? Are you crying so sadly? Which class of junior high school are you in?”

The female teacher spoke gently to Yi Yang and changed her demeanor as soon as she faced her. This scene naturally fell into Yi Xiaoqing’s eyes. She didn’t have time to think about why Yi Yang appeared here. She just felt more aggrieved. , cried until he sobbed…

Teacher Wu also has a headache… She is always straightforward and has a bold personality, but she is not very good at dealing with this kind of thing. She came out at this time because she had something urgent to do. Being delayed here, she couldn’t help but feel even more angry. She was about to say something, at this moment Yi Yang interrupted: “Teacher Wu… let me handle it.”

Teacher Wu glanced at Yi Yang in surprise.

“You handle it?”

“She…hey, my cousin.”

Teacher Wu was slightly startled. It would be much easier if it was a cousin. According to their family’s tradition, if they act naughty, they will be beaten by their cousin. He nodded and said, “Okay, discipline your cousin.” After saying that, he ignored Yi Xiaoqing, who was still crying, and walked away.

I saw Yi Yang walking up to Yi Xiaoqing, silently picking up the skipping rope, and untying the knots one by one. Halfway through, he was caught by Yi Xiaoqing. She had stopped crying and just bit Looking at him with pursed lips.

Yi Yang sighed slightly and did not discuss this matter with her. Question: “Physical education class?”

Yi Xiaoqing looked at her cousin in front of her, feeling an indescribable emotion in her heart, and nodded silently.

Yi Yang pointed to the skipping rope: “It’s okay to be idle. If you get it out, come in with me to pack up the equipment.”

Yi Xiaoqing was silent for a long time, and Yi Yang took it as her consent and turned around to go in… Just then he heard her voice from behind: “Yi Yang… Am I very annoying?”

Yi Yang was slightly startled, then turned around and saw Yi Xiaoqing looking at him with a very complicated look. To be honest, for a long time, he didn’t like his cousin, but he hated Wang Hua more. But no matter what, Wang Hua has no blood relationship with her, but Yi Xiaoqing does, and is even close to her. This is the case in a small place, where the patriarchal relationship bound by blood is vividly reflected, which cannot be broken away no matter what.

Yi Yang sighed, decided to have a good chat with her, and said: “Wait for me.” Then he took away the skipping rope, walked in and threw it to Zhang Bushou: “Open the knot, you two will work for a while, I go out for a while.”

Zhao Qiao asked: “What’s wrong?”

“Nothing, I’ll buy you a few bottles of drinks.”

“Okay… go ahead.”

After coming out, Yi Xiaoqing still maintained the same posture as before, but lowered his head and said again: “Am I very annoying?”

Yi Yang said: “Let’s go and have a look.”

Yi Xiaoqing hesitated for a moment and nodded silently.

The two began to run aimlessly on the playground track. After walking for a while, Yi Yang said: “You… you are not a bad person.”

In fact, how bad can a person like Yi Xiaoqing be? The behavior of children before puberty is the mirror of their parents. What they say and do are copied from their parents. The way parents communicate directly affects their children. If parents speak softly and consider the feelings of others, their children will probably do the same. If parents are unforgiving in everything they say and take every little thing seriously, there is a high chance that their children will also become a person who likes to attack others personally.

The essential reason is that the way parents speak directly makes children feel that it is a normal way of communication.

For example, his cousin was scolded by Wang Hua every day for trivial things, such as not washing his socks, “You are a lazy person who cannot stand up to the wall with mud, and you are a dirty critic.” So, Yi Xiaoqing can learn from this. In this way, in school, because a classmate said he wanted to lose weight but didn’t stick to it, he would scold him: “Look, I know you are talking about a person who gives up halfway.”

Who will like it?

Yi Yang has experienced Yi Xiaoqing’s rise from one thing to the evaluation of other people’s personalities many times.

And she may not be aware of all this.

People like Yi Xiaoqing often need many years to grow up, run into enough obstacles, and one day become that kind of people-pleaser personality. The people-pleasing personality does not mean to please everyone. It means “giving the best to strangers and leaving the worst to the people closest to you.” Then there is a high probability that this communication method will be passed on to the next generation. generation.

Yi Yang suddenly felt lucky. Neither his grandma nor his father, whom he has much memory of, are like that. Their social habits gave him a very high ability to detect and even control other people’s emotions… emotional intelligence. The essence of emotional intelligence is not eloquence, but many people like to confuse the two.

Yi Xiaoqing said: “Then why…”

“Why are others always targeting you or even isolating you? Isn’t that right?”

Yi Xiaoqing was startled and looked at Yi Yang in disbelief. His eyes seemed to say, how did you know?

Yi Yang thought for a while and said, “I want to ask you a question.”

“Um……”

“You tied a knot in your skipping rope today… and then I said, you are a guy who can’t control your own hands and has a brain problem when you have nothing to do.”

“I just…” Yi Xiaoqing tried to explain.

“You just feel uncomfortable in your heart, probably because you have just suffered the grievances from other places… and then you tied the knot in the skipping rope subconsciously. I know.”

Yi Xiaoqing looked at him: “Then you…still said that…”

Yi Yang smiled slightly: “So, the previous sentence is because you tied the knot in the rope. I have to judge you. Have you found the problem?”

Suddenly, Yi Xiaoqing was stunned.

Many images flashed through my mind at once.

“Then you have quite a strong taste…”

“I knew you were a careless guy.”

“You wear black clothes, you must be a dark person…”

All kinds of things, and more scenes of mocking others… Enlightenment happened in a moment. For a moment, she felt a sudden awakening, but then she felt deep fear…Had she said so many hurtful words without knowing it? And every time, he seems to be proud of his “wit”.

Looking at Yi Yang again, his expression was extremely complicated.

Yi Yang didn’t say anything, but seeing her expression, he felt a little comfort in his heart… Of course, she couldn’t say that she could change all at once, but as long as she could be aware of her own problems… Slowly, she would still be there changing.

At this time, the two walked to the school cafeteria, where there was a canteen.

Yi Yang went in and bought a few bottles of drinks, threw one to Yi Xiaoqing, and said, “It doesn’t matter. When you speak in the future, just go through it in your mind before speaking, and don’t define a person easily. “

For a moment, Yi Xiaoqing felt extremely ashamed of her low emotional intelligence. She took the bottle of water and remained silent. At this time, she also realized that even if Yi Yang was talking about her problems, it didn’t make her feel uncomfortable at all.

He didn’t say that he had low emotional intelligence or no brain because of this incident.

Yi Yang said again: “Chatting means telling stories and feelings. Don’t always express your opinions, but also have to be accepted.” After saying that, he also knew that she would definitely need to digest what he said. In fact, I am not sure how much my cousin will be able to hear. But after saying this, he smiled slightly: “I have to go there to work for a while, so I won’t accompany you.”

Yi Xiaoqing nodded silently.

After Yi Yang left, she turned around and glanced at Yi Yang’s back, then silently held the bottle of drink and whispered…

“Thanks.”